grpc-java: TLS handshake error when bumping netty to 4.1.69.Final and tcnative to 2.0.44.Final

https://source.cloud.google.com/results/invocations/71e5d11c-8ed1-421a-86a0-b646f0eecb74/targets/grpc%2Fjava%2Fmaster%2Fpresubmit%2Fmacos/log

io.grpc.netty.ProtocolNegotiatorsTest > from_tls_clientAuthRequire_noClientCert FAILED
    expected:
        ssl exception
    but was:
        io exception
        Channel Pipeline: [SslHandler#0, ProtocolNegotiators$ClientTlsHandler#0, WriteBufferingAndExceptionHandler#0, DefaultChannelPipeline$TailContext#0]
        at io.grpc.netty.ProtocolNegotiatorsTest.from_tls_clientAuthRequire_noClientCert(ProtocolNegotiatorsTest.java:418)

io.grpc.netty.NettyClientTransportTest > tlsNegotiationServerExecutorShouldSucceed FAILED
    java.util.concurrent.TimeoutException: Waited 10 seconds (plus 10086801 nanoseconds delay) for SettableFuture@2fab9b61[status=PENDING]
        at com.google.common.util.concurrent.AbstractFuture.get(AbstractFuture.java:508)
        at com.google.common.util.concurrent.AbstractFuture$TrustedFuture.get(AbstractFuture.java:111)
        at io.grpc.netty.NettyClientTransportTest$Rpc.waitForResponse(NettyClientTransportTest.java:847)
        at io.grpc.netty.NettyClientTransportTest.tlsNegotiationServerExecutorShouldSucceed(NettyClientTransportTest.java:720)